Dear High School Seniors,
I’m writing this to you because I’m currently working a school in Germany. At my school, the “seniors” are already done, but I’m working with kids your age, and I see them and remember myself at 18. I’m writing this to you because soon, you will graduate. You’ll get dressed in a plastic cap and gown; sit for hours in a stiflingly hot gym or auditorium or in full sun on your school’s football field; walk up on a stage; shake some hands, and receive an empty folder that will hold your high school diploma as soon as you pick up your permanent record after the ceremony. You’ll probably feel like this is the one of, if not the, biggest accomplishments of your life. (I didn’t. When I was 18, it was quiz bowl state meet that was my biggest accomplishment. I actually had to work for that…) You’ll take pictures with your parents and your grandparents. You’ll take pictures with your friends, and you’ll smile through the tears. Maybe…
At any rate, no matter how you feel about it, it’s a pretty big day. Huge accomplishment or not, it is a major milestone in your life. You just came to the end of your mandatory education. Congratulations! Now get over it and move on to bigger and better things. High school is not the best time of your life. I promise. It gets better. Even though terrible things will happen (because that’s life), life after high school is exponentially better than life during high school. Many of you will go to college, which is awesome. Your education is a privilege that many, many, many people will not get. Yes, you’ll probably have to pay through the nose for it, but I would pay it all over again. I do not regret a single penny. Appreciate it. Embrace it. Enjoy it.
Make mistakes and try new things. Don’t get your heart set on any specific major so much so that you miss out on something that you might love one million times more. Stay up too late working on a paper. Or stay up too late talking with friends. Both are important experiences. Go to the bar on a “school night.” Drink too much and go hungover to class. NEVER, EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES DRIVE AFTER DRINKING ALCOHOL OR SMOKING POT OR DOING ANY OTHER DRUGS. NEVER GET IN A CAR WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN DOING ANY OF THESE THINGS IF THAT PERSON WILL BE DRIVING. SERIOUSLY. Be the designated driver for your friends, too. That’s fun in and of itself.
Speaking of friends: True friends are rare, and they are truly a gift. Take care of your friendships. Friends will come in and out of your life, and friends will certainly disappoint you. Some things are unforgivable, but people do deserve second chances. Surround yourself with the people who make you happy. Avoid those who don’t. Don’t be a fake friend and don’t have fake friends. Maybe you’ll be friends with the people you were friends with through school and maybe you won’t be. That’s life.
Study abroad. This was expensive, too, but it was one of the best experiences of my entire life, and it has brought me so much joy and opened so many doors for me - doors that I didn’t even know existed. And here I am, living in Germany - living a dream that I didn’t even know I had until I studied here. See?
Your parents love you. A lot. They are also pretty smart. They love you no matter what. They love you even when they yell at you. In fact, they yell at you because they love you. Hug your mom and dad. Tell them you love them every chance you get. However, you probably won’t be able to realize this until you leave home for the first time.
Siblings are great, too. It took me a long time and a really terrible situation to realize this. Siblings love you, too. Even though you might never get along, they love you. I promise. I would never trade all the pain and fear I feel watching my sister fight her cancer for a life as an only child. She’s my baby sister, and she will be for the rest of my life. I love her.
Love yourself. I’m pretty sure you’re a good person. You’re going to fail at things. You’re going to make mistakes. Some people will not like you. Some people will even hate you. That’s their problem, not yours. Don’t make it your problem. But don’t be an egotistical jerk, either. There’s a fine, fine line between the two. Find the line and respect it. Find the people who love you for you.
Congratulations on your graduation. It’s been a long road, but you’ve made it. Now go out there and make something of yourself.
Best wishes and godspeed,
Jessica